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It is so easy to lose friends, just do nothing, don't call back and the relationship dies a natural death. Making new friends on the other hand never happens by accident. It takes a concerted effort to build up trust and rapport. But it is well worth it.

Shyness is defined as lacking self-confidence or being distrustful. If some poor encounter in the past has coloured your expectation of strangers, here is a recovery plan for you:

One - The past is the past. Get over it. You might have been the ridicule of your class at school. You might have been embarrassed in some situation. You might have been turned down through dating. You might have missed out on being selected for your sports team - whatever the reason remember this: It's not what happened to you that matters. It's the way you handle it. You can continue to survive in that little prison of your mind or you can smash the walls and set yourself free. Today is the beginning of your new life.

Two - Put yourself in situations where you will indeed meet strangers. I don't mean walking around a busy train station although you might take advantage of the situation of people waiting on the platform to strike a conversation. It is only in big cities that talking to strangers is a social taboo. Folks from the country will gladly converse with anyone in sight. When you spend your life in the open space doing animal husbandry, any human being is fair game to enquire and converse.

Three - Practice small talk. While you are queuing at the checkout, compliment the person in front of you. Go to parties. Don't just stand there feeding your face. Without food in your mouth it's easier to volunteer a remark if someone you don't know passes by. Introduce yourself, ask for the other person's name. memorize it straight away. People will always be well dispositioned towards you if they find out you remembered their name.

Four - Show genuine interest in the values of others. Again that's another chance to juggle your memory. People will naturally talk about their interests. Be a good listener. Pepper the talk with pointed questions like; "How is that?" "How often do you do that?" "How long did it take you to learn that skill?" and so on...

Five - Offer to help with no strings attached. Say something like: "I don't know if that can help you but in the past I have done this or that... I'll be happy to do it again." That would give you a reason to exchange contacts.

Six - Not everyone is your cup of tea, but you will only find out if you try. Appearances are deceptive. An outgoing person can turn out to be a real pain-in-the-neck and an introverted civil servant can turn out to have a really warm personality. Don't let the experience reinforce what caused you to become shy in the first place. You have been delivered from that. Stamp it out if it tries to cling on you again...

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